I was thinking about this the other day, and the whole "find your mate" process seems largely selfish.
Maybe another vote for arranged marriages.
Just kidding, I'm not sure that's the best way to go about matching people, but it does take away a lot of problems and issues.
Just think about it. What are the things that people process in their mind when they look for a potential boyfriend or girlfriend?
The first thing is usually physical. Is she or he "hot"? Which by the way, where did that term get derived from, "hot"? Maybe it's because, they're so energy intensive and give off so much light (like the sun), they're hot.
Then there are other things, like, is she or he funny to me, or can I carry a meaningful conversation with this person. But it often times seems more self-reflective, what's in it for me type mentality.
I think the online dating sites reflect that. They are geared for matching qualities, technologically and somewhat sterile-like, that John Doe or Jane Doe wants to see in person X or person Y.
Selfishness can be good in some respects, it would be a rocky road if people just got together just because of some random reason, and that they don't consider their own traits in the relationship. But I'm just saying, it seems for the most part, a selfish type mentality/search.
It is not recorded, and does not appear, so I don't believe it happened, that Jesus ever dated. I wonder how He would have gone about that. Largely, I think it would have been similar to every way in which He carried Himself. Always willing to sacrifice. Love fully and vulnerably. Always seeking to serve and having grace upon grace and tons of compassion.
Even though He didn't date, I still think He left the best example on how to date by the way He demonstrated personal relationships.
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